Struggles...

So, I go from proud of my husband to totally disappointed in my son. We took a loan to send him to military boarding school for 8th grade. He struggled at first but did really well. He loved the school and everything about it. The only part that was hard was being away from home (in another state). We thought this would be a good launching point for him for High School. We had to pick him up from that school in May of last year. Last year for 9th grade he went to an all boy's private school. The semester started out rocky. I know a lot of it had to do with the crap he came home too. It was right when my husband was leaving me to pursue a relationship with her. My son was very angry at my husband. My husband in turn was very short with my son. I feel that their relationship has been very strained since then. As the year went on his grades got worse. He was failing most of his classes. He had to take winter intersession classes to raise any D and F grades. The second semester just got worse. He had to take summer school in order to redo three grades. With that he still failed Algebra. He is in public school for the first time this year (10th grade). He is taking his regular classes and Algebra. He should be taking Geometry. Well, we just got his progress report and like I said in the first sentence, I am totally disappointed. I don't know what happen to his motivation and drive. He used to have it. I think a lot of it had to do with his Dad wanting to leave. It wasn't just my husband being "unhappy" in our marriage but it would have meant him leaving us as a family. I think that is hard for anyone, especially a son. He (my son) has lost his way and no matter what I seem to do to help him find his way back, he isn't. I tell him that this is so important for him and his future. I want him to do well, I want him to do better then us (his parents). We have him working with an "academic counselor" so I am hoping that it will help. I thought my son had an epiphany this past weekend. He wrote out a list of things for him to follow and do. I am hoping that this is still the case. I have to be optimistic.... maybe tomorrow... because today I am just disappointed.